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Successful Relationship Spiritual Partnership

Are you ready for a successful relationship? People have asked Dean Evenson and myself what is the secret of our long and happy marriage. Although there are no quick and easy answers, I want to try to shed some light on that question here and spiritual partnership is an important component of our successful relationship. When Dean and I first met in 1968, we noticed that we shared similar values and dreams for life. That common bond is probably what drew us together in the first place as we both wanted to use our creativity to help others and heal the many problems of our world. At the very beginning of our relationship, we had the shared values of spiritual service.

From that initial connection of wanting to serve, we have continued to evolve our consciousness and develop our spiritual path. There is no doubt that the success of our relationship has benefited greatly from our common spiritual practice. We pray together, we meditate together, we dream together and we intend our life to be a certain way together. Also in our case, since we are both musicians, we sing, chant and play music together. Now I don’t expect every couple to be able to play music together, but you can consider singing, chanting, toning, drumming, or playing singing bowls together. Those are musical endeavors that don’t necessarily require extensive musical training. Even listening to certain peaceful music or singing along with your favorite sacred songs together can be a spiritual experience.

The other thing we do requiring no special skill is that we bless our food before eating. A lot of people dive right into their meal, but we find that grace occurs when we take a moment to pause and express gratitude for the food that has come to our table. We honor the Earth from which it came, the farmers who grew it, the system that brought it to us, and the cook who prepared it. This may seem like a small thing, but praying to the ‘God or Goddess of your understanding’ can even make the food taste better. Dean and I grew up with that custom so it comes naturally to us. Our kids put up with it as they were growing up when we would all hold hands and pray before dining, even in a restaurant. Pausing for a moment of silence before a meal can be unifying. In fact, expressing gratitude for the blessings of your life and even for the challenges can keep your relationship on a positive track.

Dean and I each have a personal morning yoga and meditation practice. We often take a walk together, another great way to enhance our connection to each other and nature. In the evening after dinner, we enjoy meditating together. We love to tone and chant and that helps deepen our connection. When we confront life’s challenges and changes, we pray together for guidance and understanding. We see ourselves as spiritual beings in physical bodies and we need all the help we can get to maneuver the trials and tribulations of life.

A shared spiritual path and practice is a positive component of a successful relationship. And it can benefit the whole family, workplace, or collaborative group of people trying to accomplish a goal. Notice that watching television is not included in our daily habits. We often watch a movie or documentary, but then when it’s over, we turn off the TV and spend time just being together. We see mainstream media and network news as a huge distraction from the quality life experience we are seeking.

Here are two final thoughts to consider for a successful relationship. Please know that honest and compassionate communication is probably the most important spiritual principle you can employ that will keep your relationship loving and trusting. And finally, don’t take things too seriously. Remember to laugh and enjoy life and each other. Having fun together will bring the greatest happiness to any partnership.

We hope you are finding creative ways of building a successful relationship with your special friend. We would love to hear from you to learn how you and your partner enhance your successful relationship through spiritual practice. Remember, when you comment here on our blog, we’ll send you a free mp3 track of our meditative music. We send you hugs, peace and big love!

PS You can listen to our music for free on SPOTIFY.  Just search for Dean Evenson or any of our artists.

World Sound Healing Day

2015-World Sound Healing DayValentine’s Day, February 14th is the 13th Annual WORLD SOUND HEALING DAY.  You can participate from your home and join many thousands of souls around the world toning AH for the Heart Chakra.  This worldwide healing event is put on by our dear friends Jonathan Goldman and Andi Goldman who are featured presenters on our SONIC HEALING MEET THE MASTERS VIDEO COURSE.

The purpose of World Sound Healing Day is to:
• Heal Our Planet • Heal Our Waters  • Raise Our Consciousness

To learn more about how to join this amazing gathering and related events visit World Sound Healing Day.  At 12 noon (local time in your time zone), sound forth for 5 minutes with the “AH” tone, created and projected with the energy of compassion and love, sending a sonic valentine to Gaia, our Mother Earth. At that time, you can go to Temple of Sacred Sound to enhance the vibratory effect as we sound together for Global Harmonization, planetary peace and healing. If you cannot tone at 12 noon, sounding anytime during February 14 will help create positive shift and change for our planet on World Sound Healing Day.

Click here for Free download of the ‘Ah’ Training Wave which was created by world renowned Healing Sounds pioneer Jonathan Goldman. It is approximately five minutes long and was designed to be utilized by those who wish to participate in World Sound Healing Day as well as other global toning events.

Be sure to check out Soundings of the Planet’s gentle music for loving Valentine’s Day Sale now.  Music sure does create a mood for romance!
*** And for awhile, I give away a free download for anyone who comments on my posts. ***

Why unconditional love? Be a love magnet

Dean Dudley

This pic is me with my sweetie husband, Dean Evenson.  We were very fortunate to meet in 1968 when we were in our mid-twenties and ready to be together. It’s easy to love this guy as he is thoughtful, funny, creative, hardworking and spiritual.  But what I want to talk about today is how to love someone who is not so loveable. That’s the process of unconditional love, loving without reason or cause, loving without conditions.

Loving someone who is nice to us or who loves us is usually pretty easy. It’s when that other person is mean, difficult to understand or creates problems that we probably have difficulty finding the love. And some would ask why do we even need to consider loving such a person or group of people?

I always harken back to the words of Jesus when he said “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”  Wow, what a concept.  To me this is one of the most radical ideas ever put forth and how many can say they have mastered that?

As I understand it, if you can love your enemy (your nemesis, your ex spouse, your mean boss, or even your parent who didn’t treat you well), and I mean truly love them, there’s a good chance that over time, your relationship will heal and they may even become your friend.  It doesn’t mean you have to live with them, marry them, hang out with them.  But if you can truly feel love in your heart, there’s a good chance that your relationship will change for the better, and everyone will benefit.  It’s worth a try.

Please don’t forget to love yourself!  Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Here’s my short video on Soundings of the Planet’s YouTube channel talking more about unconditional love and how you can become a magnet for love. Enjoy!

Let me know your thoughts on love as Valentine’s Day approaches.  And for a limited time, in appreciation for your involvement, I am giving away free mp3 downloads to folks who comment on my blog posts.

Be sure to check out our gentle music for loving Valentine’s Day Sale now.  Music sure does create a mood for romance!

Power of Love to Overcome Conflict

As I prepared for the birth of my first child over forty years ago, one of the things I knew I needed to deal with was my long-standing conflict with my parents.  Ever since my husband, Dean Evenson, and I had been living together and growing our hair out and expressing our controversial ideas against war and for civil rights issues, we had an uncomfortable relationship with my parents.  Since I had begun to see the world differently from my parents and develop a more free spirited lifestyle in keeping with my true nature, we had not been able to see eye to eye and I had felt terribly judged by them.  It hurt me deeply. As I approached my own parenthood, I decided to thoughtfully look at what was going on.
Heart Rocks

One day, I had the startling realization that I had equally strong judgments about my parents as they did of me.  I judged their judgments, their prejudices, their conservatism, their materialism, and their affluent lifestyle.  It occurred to me, on the eve of my becoming a mother, that I couldn’t change them, but I could change myself.  I could let go of my judgments and love them unconditionally.  With some effort, but also with a great feeling of relief I did just that.  I let the love return that I had felt in my earlier years, and I just appreciated my parents as who they are, not who I thought they should be.  Interestingly, within a few weeks, we had the first real communication in years.  I hadn’t sent them a letter or called to announce my change of heart, but somehow, it had gotten through, and we renewed our family ties.

Years later I took a workshop that introduced the idea of ‘Changing Your Telepathic Agreement’ with someone you are in conflict with.  The way it works is this – you bring that person into your consciousness and in a meditative state you speak to their ‘higher self’.  At the beginning, you let them have it.  In other words, you say all the things that are bothering you about that person, words that you might not want to say in person but what you are truly feeling.  By the end of the first session you shift and begin to say things like ‘but I understand how you may have become this way’…or ‘I know you are trying to change.’  You do the meditation day after day with each day having less of the first part (‘you make me mad, you hurt me’) and more of the second part (‘we are getting closer to understanding, I forgive, etc.). You can also create a forgiveness mantra and sing it to yourself.  It could be something simple like ‘I forgive you and you forgive me.’  Give it a melody and sing it whenever the person comes to mind. If you do this practice with conviction and repetition, you will find that soon, your projection of the conflict is changing and no matter how much they may have harmed you, when you think of that person, your thoughts won’t carry as much charge, and eventually you will find a peaceful resolution of the conflict with them.  In any event, you will have more inner peace and isn’t that what forgiveness is all about?

World Sound Healing Day February 14, 2014

World Sound Healing Day

What if enough people set an intention for love to prevail and they all decided to take a moment on one day of the year to send out a tone representing their commitment to love – do you think it would make a difference?  Well, in case you want to be part of a worldwide experiment testing the LOVE FREQUENCY in action, you might want to join a great many of us who are choosing to send out the great AH tone of the heart chakra with the intention of sending out love to the whole planet.  This will be on Valentine’s Day when so many are considering love in all its facets.  Our good friends Jonathan Goldman and Andi Goldman have been sponsoring this planetary toning for many years. You can learn more from their new video and actually participate in creating a live group sound on their website on February 14th.  Whether you go through the process and listen in with others or just find a quiet space in your own home to sit and make the Ah tone, please consider joining this powerful sound healing experience of elevating the frequency of love on the planet.  Not much to lose and much to possibly gain.
Goldmans Evensons

Join thousands throughout the planet for the 12th Annual World Sound Healing Day on Friday, February 14, 2014.  At 12 noon (local time in your time zone) sound forth for 5 minutes with the ‘Ah’ tone created and projected with the energy of compassion and love, sending a sonic valentine to Gaia, our Mother Earth.

At that time, you can also go to the Temple of Sacred Sound to enhance the vibratory effect as we sound together for Global Harmonization, planetary peace and healing,  If you cannot tone at noon, sounding any time during the day will help create positive shift and change for our planet on World Sound Healing Day.

The purpose of World Sound Healing Day is to:

  1. Heal Our Planet!
  2. Heal Our Waters!
  3. Raise Our Consciousness!