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Partner Meditation

Partner Meditation & Vocal Toning

Enjoy this excerpt on Partner Meditation from our new book Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music.  When two people have a spiritual practice in common, their relationship has a better chance of surviving and thriving. When they are able to sing, tone, chant, pray, or play instruments together, they can experience their connection in an even deeper way. Dean Evenson and I (Dudley Evenson) have been very fortunate to have both music and meditation happening in our relationship, and this certainly keeps more fun in the equation. We have grown in our spiritual journeys, both individually and as a couple, and we are grateful for the spiritual practice that we share because we know how much it has helped our relationship to flourish. We hope others will consider a shared path using music and sound to enhance their spiritual connection.

New book by Dudley & Dean Evenson
Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music Available 2/20/18.

For many years, we taught workshops on meditation and sound healing. In the process, we got a lot of practice with vocal toning in groups and appreciated every minute of it. Eventually though, we discovered that by applying those toning practices in our personal life, we especially benefitted from toning together just as a couple. Through the years, we have spent many long, comfortable evenings toning together as we lay amongst the pillows on our comfy couch. We might start off with a low hum and let it grow, flow, and change as we enjoy the simple process of breathing and vibrating together. We feel very comfortable toning together probably because we do it so often. So, we suggest that if you want to enhance intimacy with your partner or good friend, try toning together on a regular basis.

Sometimes, Dean and I tone in the car and it centers us. Other times, we sing along with our favorite kirtan or chant music. There are many ways to join together in musical meditations, and I’m sure new ways are being invented every day by couples across the globe. To be clear about the concept of intimacy, it does not apply to just sexual, sensual, or adult relationships. Intimacy applies as well to a mother and child, brother and sister, and friends. Children can have fun with the toning experience too.

Simply taking time to sit together in a quiet space without talking can improve the partner bond. There is a whole system of partner meditation in the Hindu tradition called Tantra which in some aspects involves sexuality. This is not to be confused with the Tantra practice of Tibetan Buddhists which does not have to do with partners or sexuality (as far as we know). We are addressing partner meditation here in a non-sexual way with activities that can be done by couples or by friends and fellow practitioners.

Conscious toning can release tensions and bring a sense of exhilaration and feeling of ‘aliveness.’ It can help to balance or tune up the whole body system. When toning with another person, listening is a major component as it involves blending one’s own voice with another’s voice. In addition, finding the space between the breaths allows access to a meditative state of quiet stillness.

Partner toning isn’t for everyone, so even if your significant other isn’t interested, you may want to consider toning with a friend. There is great benefit as two or more people feel comfortable breathing together and sounding resonant tones. When people allow themselves to open to this sort of intimate sound connection, magic occurs creating a deeper sense of familiarity.

In partner meditation, you can sit face-to-face, side-by-side, back-to -back, or even lying down next to each other. Each has its advantages, so experiment and choose what works best for you.  There is so much more we talk about in Quieting the Monkey Mind.  We would be grateful if you  preorder now on amazon now to help us hit the ground running with this wonderful guidebook that is filled with tools, tips, and techniques to support your meditation process.

New book on meditation.

Quieting the Monkey Mind New Book by Dudley & Dean Evenson

Enjoy this excerpt from the introduction of our new book about meditation Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music by Dudley & Dean Evenson. Release date 2/20/18. We hope you will pre-order on amazon now.

When we first became exposed to meditation many decades ago, we found that it made a powerful impact on our quality of life. Since then, we have continued to practice and learn as much as we could about meditation and its benefits in order to help bring peace into our often less-than-peaceful world. In a way, our story is the story of a generation, the one that came of age in the turbulent ‘60s, a powerful time of awakening to something that had been hidden deep within us. After a decade of civil rights protests and anti-war demonstrations, our generation knew what we were against, but it took us many years of intense personal seeking to discover what it was that we were actually for.

Monkey Mind
Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music

On a basic level, we were searching for meaning and for understanding, trying to make sense of this crazy world we were born into. We didn’t accept the status quo and we yearned for a living truth. We asked a lot of questions, and we are still asking questions: What kind of life do we want to live? How can we make the world a better place? How can we help? How can we heal? I am guessing that if you are reading this book, then you are also asking some of these questions…

We lived and traveled in a half-sized school bus during the 1970s which was an adventure in exploring consciousness and we captured a lot of what we were learning on our new video camera. We videotaped gurus and yogis, Native American elders, healers, environmentalists, and many others involved in creating a new paradigm. When yoga and meditation first started coming into public awareness, we began exploring them with great enthusiasm. The ideas and philosophies from the East that we were exposed to resonated with our souls and influenced our music as well. Dean began to play more long, slow tones on his flute, while I discovered special harp tunings that lent themselves to making open, spacious music…

As we had been studying yoga and meditation, it was a natural fit that we tended toward music which encouraged relaxation and stillness. Initially, we were simply making meditative music from the heart that reflected the peacefulness of the natural world. In the process of our travels, we had been inspired by our contact with Native American wisdom keepers so our music with natural sounds was in support of their compelling message about respecting Mother Earth.

As practitioners of yoga and meditation, we have benefited greatly from the blessings these activities have brought to our lives. As musicians, we see how intertwined the sacred and musical can be. We have been fortunate to study with Indian yogis, Tibetan lamas, Zen monks, rabbis, ministers, and Native American medicine people. With those masters to guide us and using our personal intuitive compass, we delved deeply into this very important field of self-discovery and found that the use of sound, music, and chant can greatly enhance the meditation process…

In this book, we share some basic principles of meditation along with a wide array of sound tools and practices that can be used to take one into deeper states of inner peace and meditative bliss. The ideas and practices shared here can be of benefit to experienced meditators as well as to those who are just beginning the process of meditation.

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