This pic is me with my sweetie husband, Dean Evenson. We were very fortunate to meet in 1968 when we were in our mid-twenties and ready to be together. It’s easy to love this guy as he is thoughtful, funny, creative, hardworking and spiritual. But what I want to talk about today is how to love someone who is not so loveable. That’s the process of unconditional love, loving without reason or cause, loving without conditions.
Loving someone who is nice to us or who loves us is usually pretty easy. It’s when that other person is mean, difficult to understand or creates problems that we probably have difficulty finding the love. And some would ask why do we even need to consider loving such a person or group of people?
I always harken back to the words of Jesus when he said “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” Wow, what a concept. To me this is one of the most radical ideas ever put forth and how many can say they have mastered that?
As I understand it, if you can love your enemy (your nemesis, your ex spouse, your mean boss, or even your parent who didn’t treat you well), and I mean truly love them, there’s a good chance that over time, your relationship will heal and they may even become your friend. It doesn’t mean you have to live with them, marry them, hang out with them. But if you can truly feel love in your heart, there’s a good chance that your relationship will change for the better, and everyone will benefit. It’s worth a try.
Please don’t forget to love yourself! Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Here’s my short video on Soundings of the Planet’s YouTube channel talking more about unconditional love and how you can become a magnet for love. Enjoy!
Let me know your thoughts on love as Valentine’s Day approaches. And for a limited time, in appreciation for your involvement, I am giving away free mp3 downloads to folks who comment on my blog posts.
Be sure to check out our gentle music for loving Valentine’s Day Sale now. Music sure does create a mood for romance!