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Partner Meditation

Partner Meditation & Vocal Toning

Enjoy this excerpt on Partner Meditation from our new book Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music.  When two people have a spiritual practice in common, their relationship has a better chance of surviving and thriving. When they are able to sing, tone, chant, pray, or play instruments together, they can experience their connection in an even deeper way. Dean Evenson and I (Dudley Evenson) have been very fortunate to have both music and meditation happening in our relationship, and this certainly keeps more fun in the equation. We have grown in our spiritual journeys, both individually and as a couple, and we are grateful for the spiritual practice that we share because we know how much it has helped our relationship to flourish. We hope others will consider a shared path using music and sound to enhance their spiritual connection.

New book by Dudley & Dean Evenson
Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music Available 2/20/18.

For many years, we taught workshops on meditation and sound healing. In the process, we got a lot of practice with vocal toning in groups and appreciated every minute of it. Eventually though, we discovered that by applying those toning practices in our personal life, we especially benefitted from toning together just as a couple. Through the years, we have spent many long, comfortable evenings toning together as we lay amongst the pillows on our comfy couch. We might start off with a low hum and let it grow, flow, and change as we enjoy the simple process of breathing and vibrating together. We feel very comfortable toning together probably because we do it so often. So, we suggest that if you want to enhance intimacy with your partner or good friend, try toning together on a regular basis.

Sometimes, Dean and I tone in the car and it centers us. Other times, we sing along with our favorite kirtan or chant music. There are many ways to join together in musical meditations, and I’m sure new ways are being invented every day by couples across the globe. To be clear about the concept of intimacy, it does not apply to just sexual, sensual, or adult relationships. Intimacy applies as well to a mother and child, brother and sister, and friends. Children can have fun with the toning experience too.

Simply taking time to sit together in a quiet space without talking can improve the partner bond. There is a whole system of partner meditation in the Hindu tradition called Tantra which in some aspects involves sexuality. This is not to be confused with the Tantra practice of Tibetan Buddhists which does not have to do with partners or sexuality (as far as we know). We are addressing partner meditation here in a non-sexual way with activities that can be done by couples or by friends and fellow practitioners.

Conscious toning can release tensions and bring a sense of exhilaration and feeling of ‘aliveness.’ It can help to balance or tune up the whole body system. When toning with another person, listening is a major component as it involves blending one’s own voice with another’s voice. In addition, finding the space between the breaths allows access to a meditative state of quiet stillness.

Partner toning isn’t for everyone, so even if your significant other isn’t interested, you may want to consider toning with a friend. There is great benefit as two or more people feel comfortable breathing together and sounding resonant tones. When people allow themselves to open to this sort of intimate sound connection, magic occurs creating a deeper sense of familiarity.

In partner meditation, you can sit face-to-face, side-by-side, back-to -back, or even lying down next to each other. Each has its advantages, so experiment and choose what works best for you.  There is so much more we talk about in Quieting the Monkey Mind.  We would be grateful if you  preorder now on amazon now to help us hit the ground running with this wonderful guidebook that is filled with tools, tips, and techniques to support your meditation process.

New book on meditation.

Quieting the Monkey Mind New Book by Dudley & Dean Evenson

Enjoy this excerpt from the introduction of our new book about meditation Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music by Dudley & Dean Evenson. Release date 2/20/18. We hope you will pre-order on amazon now.

When we first became exposed to meditation many decades ago, we found that it made a powerful impact on our quality of life. Since then, we have continued to practice and learn as much as we could about meditation and its benefits in order to help bring peace into our often less-than-peaceful world. In a way, our story is the story of a generation, the one that came of age in the turbulent ‘60s, a powerful time of awakening to something that had been hidden deep within us. After a decade of civil rights protests and anti-war demonstrations, our generation knew what we were against, but it took us many years of intense personal seeking to discover what it was that we were actually for.

Monkey Mind
Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music

On a basic level, we were searching for meaning and for understanding, trying to make sense of this crazy world we were born into. We didn’t accept the status quo and we yearned for a living truth. We asked a lot of questions, and we are still asking questions: What kind of life do we want to live? How can we make the world a better place? How can we help? How can we heal? I am guessing that if you are reading this book, then you are also asking some of these questions…

We lived and traveled in a half-sized school bus during the 1970s which was an adventure in exploring consciousness and we captured a lot of what we were learning on our new video camera. We videotaped gurus and yogis, Native American elders, healers, environmentalists, and many others involved in creating a new paradigm. When yoga and meditation first started coming into public awareness, we began exploring them with great enthusiasm. The ideas and philosophies from the East that we were exposed to resonated with our souls and influenced our music as well. Dean began to play more long, slow tones on his flute, while I discovered special harp tunings that lent themselves to making open, spacious music…

As we had been studying yoga and meditation, it was a natural fit that we tended toward music which encouraged relaxation and stillness. Initially, we were simply making meditative music from the heart that reflected the peacefulness of the natural world. In the process of our travels, we had been inspired by our contact with Native American wisdom keepers so our music with natural sounds was in support of their compelling message about respecting Mother Earth.

As practitioners of yoga and meditation, we have benefited greatly from the blessings these activities have brought to our lives. As musicians, we see how intertwined the sacred and musical can be. We have been fortunate to study with Indian yogis, Tibetan lamas, Zen monks, rabbis, ministers, and Native American medicine people. With those masters to guide us and using our personal intuitive compass, we delved deeply into this very important field of self-discovery and found that the use of sound, music, and chant can greatly enhance the meditation process…

In this book, we share some basic principles of meditation along with a wide array of sound tools and practices that can be used to take one into deeper states of inner peace and meditative bliss. The ideas and practices shared here can be of benefit to experienced meditators as well as to those who are just beginning the process of meditation.

Click here to order on amazon. Quieting the Monkey Mind: How to Meditate with Music by Dudley & Dean Evenson.





Setting Intention actually works

Setting Intention Works!

The three main goals I set my intention to accomplish a year ago, I have actually manifested. When I looked back at my Never Too Old To Learn Something New January blog of last year, I was pleasantly surprised to notice that I had achieved my goals in the three new areas I had decided to set my intention on.

It’s never too late to learn new things. My sweet husband, Dean Evenson, had given me a ukulele and I wanted to learn to play it. The process of developing a new skill wasn’t without mishaps like when I fractured my elbow a few months later and had to wait for it to heal before I could practice again. I kept working on it, got a few lessons, watched some YouTube videos and practiced till my fingers had callouses. Now that I have learned a dozen chords, I can play along on the ukulele and enjoy singing the songs I love.

The second new area I wanted to develop was to become a certified life coach. I have been involved in a local life coach group and have always had an inclination to counsel people who had a dream but didn’t know how to bring it to fruition. Since Dean and I have been fortunate to live our dreams, I wanted to be able to help others live their dreams too. An opportunity came up for me to get professional training in the fundamentals of life coaching so I jumped at the chance and took the course. Once the training was completed, I took on some pro bono clients to practice my skills and eventually have been able to add more clients and see them to success in many areas.

The third intention I set was to finally write the book that has been brewing in me for a long time. Dean and I have taught workshops on sound healing and meditation and people have asked me to provide more information so a book was a perfect outlet to share what we know. Now a year later, How to Meditate with Music Guidebook has gone through the preliminary editing process, the images have been selected, and I have even designed the cover. Soon I will turn it over to my graphics designer to perfect the layout and then it will be ready to publish. Before that happens I will be sending out preliminary copies for people to read and give me feedback so let me know if you are interested in reading it before it goes to print.

Oh, and the book writing has a postscript. I am getting to contribute a chapter to a new Jack Canfield book called The Big Secret. You’ve probably heard of Jack Canfield as co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. This new book that I will be a part of is stories from leading entrepreneurs and professionals revealing their big secrets for achieving success in the areas of health, wealth and lifestyle. I will keep you posted when this book is released.

And finally – journal, journal, journal. Write down your thoughts and dreams. What turns you on? What lights you up? What is holding you back? Notice your blockages. Make lists. Clarify your vision. Journaling can be a helpful way to move forward in life and get what is mulling around in your head out and on paper so you can tackle the tasks that are required to manifest your dreams.

Good luck and blessings on your path. What is your intention in the coming year? Write it down. Commit to taking steps, no matter how small, toward your goals. You can do it! We love to hear from you and when you comment here we’ll send you a free mp3 of our music.