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Tribute to Dr. Wayne W. Dyer (1940-2015)

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Dean Evenson playing flute as Wayne Dyer autographs a book for one of his many fans

As many of you may have heard by now, Dr. Wayne Dyer passed away a few days ago, but not without leaving an amazing body of work as a legacy. Dean Evenson and I were privileged to be with him many times over the years when he was a keynote speaker at the Hay House I Can Do It conferences where we would sell our music and sometimes perform with authors and presenters. We also became friends with his daughter, Tracy Dyer, who founded a great company called Urban Junket which makes stylish handbags using eco friendly and recycled materials.

“You’re not what you have and you’re not what you do; you’re an infinite, divine being disguised as a successful person who has accumulated a certain amount of stuff. The stuff is not you. For that reason, you must avoid being attached to it in any way.”
Wayne Dyer Dudley
Here he just signed one of his children’s books I had purchased for my niece or nephews.

The last time I heard Dr. Dyer speak was in Denver in April and he was in high form. He has always woven his personal life stories into his talks and this evening was no exception. He talked about growing up in an orphanage and his challenge of finally being able to forgive his father for having abandoned his family. Even after listening to his many talks over the years, this last time I felt a greater sense of peaceful clarity from him. For the first time though, he delivered his talk sitting down which led me to believe that he was beginning to wind down and lose some of that remarkable stamina that had led him to write over 40 books including 20 New York Times bestsellers.
Wayne Dyer sitting

“Being healthy is a natural state, and the means for achieving it are within the grasp of each one of us. I believe that a judicious mixture of hard work, clear thinking, humor and self-confidence are the ingredients of effective living.”  He said this in Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life which was his first self-help book written in 1976 and has sold over 35 million copies making it one of the best-selling books of all time.

In 2009 Dyer was diagnosed with leukemia. He dealt with his illness mostly using a combination of good diet, exercise and positive thinking, but a few years later he was treated remotely by John of God, a Brazilian psychic healer. About five months after the treatment, he felt that he was actually healed. He continued to write his books, make films and travel extensively as a keynote speaker. When I saw him in 2015, because he delivered his talk sitting down, I assumed that the leukemia had reappeared and when he died a few days ago, I and many of us who knew him supposed that it was the leukemia that took him out. Just today, however, I heard that his autopsy revealed there was no trace whatsoever of leukemia in him and that he had in fact died of a heart attack. So what to think of all this? Dyer shared John of God’s simple message “I do not cure anybody. God heals, and in His infinite goodness permits the entities to heal and console my brothers. I am merely an instrument in God’s Divine hands.” I guess that makes as much sense as anything so I pray we can all be instruments of God and do what we can to make this world a better place. Wayne Dyer certainly did.

For a limited time, you can watch The Shift Movie that he made.  Here’s the link to view.

Let me know which of Wayne Dyer’s many books you have enjoyed and what has most inspired you of his writings. For those who comment here, in gratitude I’ll send you a free mp3 track of our peaceful, healing music.


Power of Love to Overcome Conflict

As I prepared for the birth of my first child over forty years ago, one of the things I knew I needed to deal with was my long-standing conflict with my parents.  Ever since my husband, Dean Evenson, and I had been living together and growing our hair out and expressing our controversial ideas against war and for civil rights issues, we had an uncomfortable relationship with my parents.  Since I had begun to see the world differently from my parents and develop a more free spirited lifestyle in keeping with my true nature, we had not been able to see eye to eye and I had felt terribly judged by them.  It hurt me deeply. As I approached my own parenthood, I decided to thoughtfully look at what was going on.
Heart Rocks

One day, I had the startling realization that I had equally strong judgments about my parents as they did of me.  I judged their judgments, their prejudices, their conservatism, their materialism, and their affluent lifestyle.  It occurred to me, on the eve of my becoming a mother, that I couldn’t change them, but I could change myself.  I could let go of my judgments and love them unconditionally.  With some effort, but also with a great feeling of relief I did just that.  I let the love return that I had felt in my earlier years, and I just appreciated my parents as who they are, not who I thought they should be.  Interestingly, within a few weeks, we had the first real communication in years.  I hadn’t sent them a letter or called to announce my change of heart, but somehow, it had gotten through, and we renewed our family ties.

Years later I took a workshop that introduced the idea of ‘Changing Your Telepathic Agreement’ with someone you are in conflict with.  The way it works is this – you bring that person into your consciousness and in a meditative state you speak to their ‘higher self’.  At the beginning, you let them have it.  In other words, you say all the things that are bothering you about that person, words that you might not want to say in person but what you are truly feeling.  By the end of the first session you shift and begin to say things like ‘but I understand how you may have become this way’…or ‘I know you are trying to change.’  You do the meditation day after day with each day having less of the first part (‘you make me mad, you hurt me’) and more of the second part (‘we are getting closer to understanding, I forgive, etc.). You can also create a forgiveness mantra and sing it to yourself.  It could be something simple like ‘I forgive you and you forgive me.’  Give it a melody and sing it whenever the person comes to mind. If you do this practice with conviction and repetition, you will find that soon, your projection of the conflict is changing and no matter how much they may have harmed you, when you think of that person, your thoughts won’t carry as much charge, and eventually you will find a peaceful resolution of the conflict with them.  In any event, you will have more inner peace and isn’t that what forgiveness is all about?