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Successful Relationship Spiritual Partnership

Are you ready for a successful relationship? People have asked Dean Evenson and myself what is the secret of our long and happy marriage. Although there are no quick and easy answers, I want to try to shed some light on that question here and spiritual partnership is an important component of our successful relationship. When Dean and I first met in 1968, we noticed that we shared similar values and dreams for life. That common bond is probably what drew us together in the first place as we both wanted to use our creativity to help others and heal the many problems of our world. At the very beginning of our relationship, we had the shared values of spiritual service.

From that initial connection of wanting to serve, we have continued to evolve our consciousness and develop our spiritual path. There is no doubt that the success of our relationship has benefited greatly from our common spiritual practice. We pray together, we meditate together, we dream together and we intend our life to be a certain way together. Also in our case, since we are both musicians, we sing, chant and play music together. Now I don’t expect every couple to be able to play music together, but you can consider singing, chanting, toning, drumming, or playing singing bowls together. Those are musical endeavors that don’t necessarily require extensive musical training. Even listening to certain peaceful music or singing along with your favorite sacred songs together can be a spiritual experience.

The other thing we do requiring no special skill is that we bless our food before eating. A lot of people dive right into their meal, but we find that grace occurs when we take a moment to pause and express gratitude for the food that has come to our table. We honor the Earth from which it came, the farmers who grew it, the system that brought it to us, and the cook who prepared it. This may seem like a small thing, but praying to the ‘God or Goddess of your understanding’ can even make the food taste better. Dean and I grew up with that custom so it comes naturally to us. Our kids put up with it as they were growing up when we would all hold hands and pray before dining, even in a restaurant. Pausing for a moment of silence before a meal can be unifying. In fact, expressing gratitude for the blessings of your life and even for the challenges can keep your relationship on a positive track.

Dean and I each have a personal morning yoga and meditation practice. We often take a walk together, another great way to enhance our connection to each other and nature. In the evening after dinner, we enjoy meditating together. We love to tone and chant and that helps deepen our connection. When we confront life’s challenges and changes, we pray together for guidance and understanding. We see ourselves as spiritual beings in physical bodies and we need all the help we can get to maneuver the trials and tribulations of life.

A shared spiritual path and practice is a positive component of a successful relationship. And it can benefit the whole family, workplace, or collaborative group of people trying to accomplish a goal. Notice that watching television is not included in our daily habits. We often watch a movie or documentary, but then when it’s over, we turn off the TV and spend time just being together. We see mainstream media and network news as a huge distraction from the quality life experience we are seeking.

Here are two final thoughts to consider for a successful relationship. Please know that honest and compassionate communication is probably the most important spiritual principle you can employ that will keep your relationship loving and trusting. And finally, don’t take things too seriously. Remember to laugh and enjoy life and each other. Having fun together will bring the greatest happiness to any partnership.

We hope you are finding creative ways of building a successful relationship with your special friend. We would love to hear from you to learn how you and your partner enhance your successful relationship through spiritual practice. Remember, when you comment here on our blog, we’ll send you a free mp3 track of our meditative music. We send you hugs, peace and big love!

PS You can listen to our music for free on SPOTIFY.  Just search for Dean Evenson or any of our artists.

Setting Intention actually works

Setting Intention Works!

The three main goals I set my intention to accomplish a year ago, I have actually manifested. When I looked back at my Never Too Old To Learn Something New January blog of last year, I was pleasantly surprised to notice that I had achieved my goals in the three new areas I had decided to set my intention on.

It’s never too late to learn new things. My sweet husband, Dean Evenson, had given me a ukulele and I wanted to learn to play it. The process of developing a new skill wasn’t without mishaps like when I fractured my elbow a few months later and had to wait for it to heal before I could practice again. I kept working on it, got a few lessons, watched some YouTube videos and practiced till my fingers had callouses. Now that I have learned a dozen chords, I can play along on the ukulele and enjoy singing the songs I love.

The second new area I wanted to develop was to become a certified life coach. I have been involved in a local life coach group and have always had an inclination to counsel people who had a dream but didn’t know how to bring it to fruition. Since Dean and I have been fortunate to live our dreams, I wanted to be able to help others live their dreams too. An opportunity came up for me to get professional training in the fundamentals of life coaching so I jumped at the chance and took the course. Once the training was completed, I took on some pro bono clients to practice my skills and eventually have been able to add more clients and see them to success in many areas.

The third intention I set was to finally write the book that has been brewing in me for a long time. Dean and I have taught workshops on sound healing and meditation and people have asked me to provide more information so a book was a perfect outlet to share what we know. Now a year later, How to Meditate with Music Guidebook has gone through the preliminary editing process, the images have been selected, and I have even designed the cover. Soon I will turn it over to my graphics designer to perfect the layout and then it will be ready to publish. Before that happens I will be sending out preliminary copies for people to read and give me feedback so let me know if you are interested in reading it before it goes to print.

Oh, and the book writing has a postscript. I am getting to contribute a chapter to a new Jack Canfield book called The Big Secret. You’ve probably heard of Jack Canfield as co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. This new book that I will be a part of is stories from leading entrepreneurs and professionals revealing their big secrets for achieving success in the areas of health, wealth and lifestyle. I will keep you posted when this book is released.

And finally – journal, journal, journal. Write down your thoughts and dreams. What turns you on? What lights you up? What is holding you back? Notice your blockages. Make lists. Clarify your vision. Journaling can be a helpful way to move forward in life and get what is mulling around in your head out and on paper so you can tackle the tasks that are required to manifest your dreams.

Good luck and blessings on your path. What is your intention in the coming year? Write it down. Commit to taking steps, no matter how small, toward your goals. You can do it! We love to hear from you and when you comment here we’ll send you a free mp3 of our music.

 

 

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Setting New Year Intention

Consider each day the beginning of a new year! What is your intention for how you want your new year to be? How do you want to feel about your life, your goals, and achievements? In your daily meditation, I encourage you to set your intention for the day and at the same time you will be setting your intention for your new year – whether it’s from January to January or June to June. Typically, when New Year’s Day occurs, people make all sorts of resolutions for the coming year. They may keep some of them for a few weeks but then eventually they fall back into their same old patterns. What if you could stay current with your resolutions by renewing them every day? What if you could actually meditate every day instead of just occasionally?

Courage to Step into the Unknown

We all know about the power of affirmations and visualizations but there are a few other aspects to the process of manifesting our dreams to reflect on. One key element is having the courage to take that first step. Do you let fear hold you back from doing the things you want to do? Where is that fear coming from? Often, we are responding to voices in our head that tell us we can’t do it, we’re not good enough, or some other type of limiting belief. When we look deeply into the source of our inner voices, we often discover that those ideas came from someone else who may not have had our best interests in mind. Watch your language. It is helpful to acknowledge the quality of our inner conversation and change it to meet our vision of how we actually want to move forward in our life.

Write it Down Make a List

Journaling can be a big help in defining how we want our lives to proceed. When you write down your goals, you are creating clarity and taking an important step in identifying your vision and dreams for your life. Talking things over with your partner or a friend and making lists can also be helpful. Dean Evenson and I have tons of journals full of our dreams and projects. Some of them we have accomplished and some are still waiting to be birthed. We keep chipping away at our dreams and when we stay focused on them, they actually happen.

Be Patient with the Process

One of the things I learned years ago when my dreams seemed to be taking too long to come into realization was that the timing wasn’t always up to me. Often, there would be other factors at work and I needed to learn to be patient and keep persevering. Dean and I used to sometimes consult the I Ching (Chinese book of changes) in order to gain confirmation on the next steps on our path. So many times that familiar phrase would show up – ‘Perseverance furthers.’ Keep going. Don’t give up. And sure enough, eventually, what we kept our focus on did ultimately become our reality. The universe has its own timeline and we need to be patient and stay the course by taking one step at a time.

I hope you have the best year ever and may all your dreams come true. They surely will if you stay focused on them and keep taking the necessary actions to make them happen. Be fearless in pursuing your highest vision for your life, each and every day and be patient with yourself. Your perfect life is waiting for you. It’s just a matter of time.

You may want to check out our meditations that all focus on staying tuned into your dreams for a whole year. Sale on both DVD & CD.
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• A Year of Guided Meditations Daily OM Course
• A Year of Guided Meditations DVD

Meditation Moment: 52 Weekly Affirmations CD

What are your dreams? What is holding you back from achieving them? When you comment on our blog we will send you a free mp3 of our music.

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Dudley’s Gluten Free Cornbread

Gluten free cornbread will be a hit at potlucks and family meals. By adding vegetables to the recipe, you will create a very moist and delicious dish that quite is different from traditional cornbread that tends to be dryer. It is high protein, low carb and with the vegetables, it is almost a complete meal in itself.

You can modify the recipe and add apples or other fruits instead of the veggies. In that case you may prefer to have less salt (Spike) and add a bit more maple syrup or honey to give it a sweeter taste. As long as you keep the basic flour and baking power ratio consistent, you can play with the ingredients a bit. And if you prefer to use regular flour, that will work too. Just keep the flour/baking powder ratio the same: 2 teaspoons per 1 cup flour.

Preheat oven to 350 F
Ingredients:
2 cups gluten free all purpose flour
1 ½ cups cornmeal
½ cup flax flour
8 teaspoons baking powder
(Formula is 2 teaspoons per 1 cup flour)
2 teaspoons Spike (or your choice of herbs)
1 teaspoon sea salt
4 eggs (free range organic, non GMO, happy chickens)
4  tablespoons olive oil
2 zucchini (minced)
2 carrots (minced)
half an onion (minced) optional
1 red pepper (chopped)
Maple syrup to taste (optional)
Almond milk to cake consistency (or hemp, soy, cow milk)

Mix together dry ingredients (flours, cornmeal, flax flour, baking powder, salt, Spike)
Stir in eggs, olive oil, minced zucchini and carrots, chopped red pepper, maple syrup.
Add almond milk to create a cake like consistency
Pour into baking dish (approx. 9”x13”)
Bake about 45 minutes
Remove from oven and cool
Serves many

Thank you for watching my video. Hope it makes clear the simplicity of this healthy, gluten free recipe. We would love to hear how your cornbread turns out. As always, we appreciate hearing from you. When you comment here we will send you a free mp3 of our music in appreciation.

Peace Through Music

Gift of Music Keeps Giving

Music is the gift that keeps on giving all year long. A CD is a small item, but it fills your whole home with peaceful vibrations. When you purchase a full album for yourself or as a gift for friend or family member, you are directly supporting the artist who created it. We thank you deeply for supporting independent musicians.

As you may know, Dean Evenson and I (Dudley) founded Soundings of the Planet to share our peaceful music almost four decades ago. We have grown with each change of technology. We began in 1979 making cassettes. Then in the late ‘80s, we started making compact discs. Then, file sharing came in and thankfully, Apple founder, Steve Jobs, invented digital downloads so people could pay a small amount to deliver music to their computer.

Now, there are new delivery systems such as streaming services like Pandora, Spotify, YouTube, Spa Channel, etc. There, you can create your own Dean Evenson, Dudley Evenson, Tom Barabas, Scott Huckabay or Soundings Ensemble channel or station. We receive a small fee each time you listen so we do benefit somewhat. But the best way to support the musician is by purchasing an actual CD of the music.

In our case, we spend a lot of time putting together a flow of the music, so there is a much greater benefit to owning a whole album versus just listening to one or two songs in random order. Our music is different from Top 40 songs because people use our music for healing and relaxation. We want you to stay in that mood and have no big surprises in the midst of your listening experience.

We are extremely grateful to you for supporting our mission of Peace Through Music.  May your holidays be filled with joy and peace. Remember, when you comment on our blog at soundings.com we will send you a free mp3 track of our music in appreciation. Seasons blessings to you and yours! Take advantage of holiday special.

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Surviving Politics Through Spiritual Practice

Surviving Elections

Democratic elections are interesting.  We need to figure out how to survive divisive elections. At the end of the day, about half the people are celebrating while the other half are feeling devastated. If you are in the first group – congratulations. For those in the second group, this post is for you. I realize many people are still nursing their disappointment with the recent election results. Now the question is how to move forward without completely giving up hope.

We each have different coping techniques. For me, I’m turning off the ‘news.’ This does not mean I will isolate myself from the world and give up. It simply means I will focus on issues and causes I care about and not be led by the news media fanning the flames of divisiveness and conflict. If you have any money or time to donate, now is a good time to support groups who are working tirelessly to build a better world.

Vulnerable Planet

Our planet is vulnerable because of over population and our dependency on fossil fuels. Pollution of air and water, soil degradation, and poverty are problems that need to be addressed. Issues of discrimination, job equity, women’s rights and food security are more important than ever. Those of us who care need to work extra hard to keep moving forward. *See the list at bottom of this post for non-profit groups.

I put together this graphic about how our faith communities might deal with adjusting their attitudes to keep moving forward. Maybe it will resonate with you!
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Helpful words from spiritual leaders

Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön says: “During difficult times like this, I’m feeling that the most important thing is our love for each other and remembering to express that and avoid the temptation to get caught in negative and aggressive thinking. Instead of polarizing, I’m feeling that it’s a time to contact our hearts and to reach out and help in any way we can.”

Roshi Joan Halifax, Abbot of Upaya Zen Center says: “It’s clear we have our work cut out for us. It is the work of love and wisdom in the face of the terrible suffering of war, environmental issues, racism, gender violence, and economic injustice. We have to work together to shift the tide toward what will benefit our children, the natural world, the future. Part of this means that we have to change the mind, move out of harsh negativity, eroding futility and fear, and build toward the good and the wise. We also have to work to shift the mood of the country and of the world through compassionate education, deep practice, and service to others.”

These words from Jan Willis, Professor Emerita of Religion at Wesleyan University also fit – “We must prepare ourselves to defend those hard-won rights and to help to ease the fears of those who now feel threatened. How do we do this? On a national level, by remaining vigilant and by remaining vocal when rights are threatened. On the personal level, by committing to serve as caring and compassionate warriors for those who are experiencing fear.”

Groups Making Our World Better

*In addition to your local food bank, here are just a few groups who will benefit from your tax-deductible donations this season: NRDC (Natural Resources Defense Council), EarthJustice, Southern Poverty Law Center, Globemed, Doctors without Borders, Planned Parenthood, 350.org, Cornucopia, Friends of the Earth, Nature Conservancy, Organic Seed Alliance, Union of Concerned Scientists.

What groups do you support? When you comment on our blog, we’ll send you a free mp3 of our music as a thank you.

 

 

 

 

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Attitude of Gratitude

For most of us reading this, there is much to be thankful for. For many around the world though, gratitude is a challenge in the face of daily struggles for food, water and shelter. Even today in this country, many fear an uncertain future as we sort through a shifting political landscape. Yet, when we look back in history, we see that past eras have been fraught with much greater issues of injustice, discrimination, and conflict.  We, as a society, have come a long way and despite what may appear on the surface, there is no turning back.

“In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.”
~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Author Eat, Pray, Love

Fortunately, we do have tools available to us that can help us get through hard times, whether we are dealing with First World problems or Third World problems. Keeping an ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ is one of the most useful principles that can help us navigate the changing times we live in. Even being thankful for what we do not necessarily like or agree with can be very powerful. Needless to say, this is not an easy task because our natural reaction to any form of suffering is often denial and resistance.

So today, we offer this idea – Gratitude for Everything! The good, the bad, the sad and even the suffering. When we can keep our perspective focused on gratitude, we will be able get through life’s challenges much more easily. Being grateful for what is and not always focusing on what is not, will likely help move us in the direction of our dreams and allow us to manifest the best possible future. No one says it will be easy, but by really learning the lessons in each situation, we can move on much more quickly to a better future.

We wish you a peaceful Thanksgiving and hope you are able to enjoy it with family and friends. We wish the people at Standing Rock, North Dakota a safe time. May they stay warm and protected as they protest to protect their water and land. We thank the Native Americans who graciously welcomed and fed the Pilgrims so long ago. May all beings find peace and support as they go through the experiences and lessons life has to offer.

As always, we appreciate hearing from you. What are you grateful for? How do you cope with challenging situations? When you comment here we will send you a free mp3 of our music in gratitude!

Need for Stillness Greater Now Than Ever

We are pleased to announce STILLNESS, Dean Evenson’s latest album. Official release date is November 18. Preorder on amazon.com. Digital downloads available now on iTunes. Dean’s long, slow keyboard tones and rich atmospheric arrangements blend with the pure sounds of his silver flute and the deep bass flute of Doug Tessler. This deeply soothing music connects with the still, quiet place within creating the perfect mood for meditation and going deep.

We realize it has been a challenging time for many people and emotions are running high and deep. Dealing with grief and loss calls for us to lean in on the tools we know work. Any time we are confronted with situations not to our liking, we are reminded that clearing the mind and letting go of attachment to our position can be a tremendous help. This principle works both ways and applies even if we are ecstatically happy about something.


For some peace of mind, join Dean Evenson as he plays his flute and meditates by mountain lakes

Meditation can support us in letting go of negative emotions such as anger and sadness and make way for a more compassionate, joyful and expansive state of being. We can’t always control what goes on around us but we can learn to control how we react to and internalize what happens in our outer world. Meditation can have immense benefits for our spiritual and physical wellbeing. Through listening to calming music and a regular meditation practice, we strive to reach a state of inner peace and move ourselves much closer to the realization our divine nature.

Michael McGillicuddy, Owner Central Florida School of Massage Therapy, had this to say about Stillness: “I love Dean Evenson’s new Stillness album. It is like listening to soft waves of flute while laying in a peaceful place. Very relaxing, peaceful and perfect for massage and other healing modalities. I received an acupuncture treatment today and listening to the CD was very healing to me.”

We invite you to check out our free download this week to listen to a track from Stillness.

And we love to hear from you. How do you deal with challenges when they come up, whether personal or societal? We always like to know what tools and techniques others have to get through difficult times. When you comment here, we’ll send you a free download in appreciation.

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Pumpkin Happy Halloween

We love pumpkins and not just at Halloween. They are such a wonderful and inexpensive source of food. What other high quality food sells for 39 cents a pound? Well, maybe that’s not for organic pumpkins, but for people interested in feeding their family on a tight budget, you can’t beat that price. Pumpkin pie, pumpkin soup, pumpkin muffins, roasted pumpkin, pumpkin smoothie, pumpkin seeds, and on and on the list goes of yummy pumpkin dishes. Oh, and did we mention, a pumpkin that is kept in a cool place will last for months without refrigeration so it is a perfect winter storage food.

pumpkins-39-centsHere is some fun early history about pumpkins that I posted last year that you might enjoy being reminded of about this wonderful food source. It turns out that pumpkins are perhaps the oldest domesticated plants on Earth dating back as far as 10,000 years B.C. according to Cindy Ott, the author of Pumpkin: The Curious History of an American Icon. When Europeans first arrived in North America, they relied on pumpkin as a survival food and they even made beer from it. The large orange globe is rich with nutrition and will store well in a root cellar providing food through the winter. Of course that was when we had root cellars and people even bothered to preserve and store food in the days before super markets and quick stops.

The appearance of a smiling or spooky face carved on a pumpkin is only a recent occurrence, supposedly an old tradition to frighten away evil spirits who might be lurking. The roots of Halloween go back 2000 years to the ancient Celtic holiday of Samhain when the spirits of the dead supposedly walk the Earth for a night. The word Samhain actually means ‘summer’s end.’ Much later in the 8th Century that Pope Gregory III designated November 1st to honor saints and martyrs. The holiday, All Saints’ Day, incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain and the evening before was known as All Hallows’ Eve and later Halloween.

pumpkin-pieSo now you know more than you probably need to know about pumpkins and Halloween. But do be sure to carve up a pumpkin and actually eat it. If you think of it as a big squash or gourd, you’ll prepare it in a similar manner. Cut it in pieces, scrape out the pulp and seeds, and bake in the oven at 350 degrees F for about an hour, depending on the size of the sections. Once it’s cooked and cooled, you can cut off the skin and your pumpkin will be ready to use in pies, soups, or as a yummy side dish. You can see in my pumpkin pie, I added raisins or dried fruit and pine nuts to give it an extra oomph. Enjoy!

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Overcome Stress Using Simple Sound Tools

Are you feeling stress? Well, it sure seems like the times we live in are getting more and more crazy. With so much bad news (or even fake news) coming toward us, we tend to stress and get caught up in worrying about what did happen or what might happen to us and our world. Watching too much television or reading too many political posts on Facebook can get us quite worked up and even cause us to lose sleep at night. So, we’re here to remind you of some very basic tools to help overcome stress, whether it involves personal issue stress or stress based somewhere ‘out there’ in the world beyond.

For almost four decades Dean Evenson and I have been involved in creating peaceful, healing music. In the process of following our spiritual and creative path, we have learned of many simple, easy to use techniques that can help reduce the stresses in our lives and many of them involve music, our life passion. We are especially interested in accessing the power within us that is available when we close out all that busyness, the apparent conflicts and dichotomies pulling us in one direction or another. We are looking to get to that place inside where there is absolute stillness and a sense of inner peace and quiet.

Simple Sound Tools to De-stress

Most of the tools you are probably familiar with. Some of our favorites include breath, meditation, music, mantra, chanting, toning and affirmations. We recognize that quieting the mind is easier said than done, especially today when we are instantly aware of events occurring all over the world, many of which have nothing to do with us. What goes on in your mind is really the key. It is what forms your perception of your world. So having some tools or systems to tune into can carry us through troubled times. These are tools that we use to bring us back into that inner stillness, the quiet place within. And just so you know, we are rooting for humanity to thrive in this next coming time but more on that later.

The Basic Sigh

Probably the tool easiest to access is the breath. Simply taking a deep breath in, holding it a moment, and then letting out a long, slow exhalation is a good place to start. This basic sigh can help you reset your mind and body to a more peaceful vibration. Often when we are stressed or afraid, we are practically holding our breath, or at the very least, taking very shallow breaths. With conscious breathing, we are really bringing in the life force. Call it air, oxygen or prana, but know that without it, life ceases to exist. So take those long deep breaths and enjoy the calmness it brings. Focus on the breath and let the random or worrisome thoughts drift away.

Modern life is structured to get us geared up and ready to be productive members of society, or so they say. Drink the coffee and get the treadmill of the fast-paced world. Unfortunately, after all that gearing up we often find it difficult to unwind and settle down or are unable to fall asleep at night. So we need to develop practices that help us to slow down and bring ourselves to that place of inner stillness.

Mantra Affirmation

Repeating a short affirmation or mantra can help clear the mind. Simply saying (or singing) to yourself ‘I am. I am. I am,’ or another such positive phrase, can help to ground and center yourself. Getting the whole body to relax helps as well. Doing yoga or some stretches relaxes the body and at the same time, releases tension in the mind. In fact, one of the most important functions of yoga is not just to make your body strong and flexible, but it is primarily to ‘still or calm the whirlpools of the mind’ according to Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras. Walking is another simple way to move the body and calm the mind and conscious walking in nature takes one even deeper.

Often when you’re getting ready for bed and trying to fall asleep, that’s when all the mental chatter comes in. We recommending playing quiet, peaceful music in the hour or so before bedtime so that you can start to calm down from all the gearing up you have done all day. With a regular meditation practice you can develop control over your mental thought processes leading to a more relaxed and peaceful state of being. You can read more about chanting, affirmations, toning and mantra in other blog posts or articles at soundings.com. These are simple tools that will benefit you in the long run and make you a more calm and peaceful person. I believe that whatever peace we have inside us will extend out and when we touch the people around us with our peaceful nature, and they touch the people around them with their peaceful nature, we will surely have a more peaceful world.

Keep in Touch

I hope you watch my video. You can hear the fun story about singing my prayer song for Dr. Larry Dossey. I’m sharing these simple possibilities so you’ll know there are some easy and meaningful things you can do to make your life better. Let me know what resonates with you. I love to hear how others navigate their own turbulent waters. And when you comment on our blog, we’ll send you a free mp3 of our music in gratitude.