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Why unconditional love? Be a love magnet

Dean Dudley

This pic is me with my sweetie husband, Dean Evenson.  We were very fortunate to meet in 1968 when we were in our mid-twenties and ready to be together. It’s easy to love this guy as he is thoughtful, funny, creative, hardworking and spiritual.  But what I want to talk about today is how to love someone who is not so loveable. That’s the process of unconditional love, loving without reason or cause, loving without conditions.

Loving someone who is nice to us or who loves us is usually pretty easy. It’s when that other person is mean, difficult to understand or creates problems that we probably have difficulty finding the love. And some would ask why do we even need to consider loving such a person or group of people?

I always harken back to the words of Jesus when he said “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”  Wow, what a concept.  To me this is one of the most radical ideas ever put forth and how many can say they have mastered that?

As I understand it, if you can love your enemy (your nemesis, your ex spouse, your mean boss, or even your parent who didn’t treat you well), and I mean truly love them, there’s a good chance that over time, your relationship will heal and they may even become your friend.  It doesn’t mean you have to live with them, marry them, hang out with them.  But if you can truly feel love in your heart, there’s a good chance that your relationship will change for the better, and everyone will benefit.  It’s worth a try.

Please don’t forget to love yourself!  Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Here’s my short video on Soundings of the Planet’s YouTube channel talking more about unconditional love and how you can become a magnet for love. Enjoy!

Let me know your thoughts on love as Valentine’s Day approaches.  And for a limited time, in appreciation for your involvement, I am giving away free mp3 downloads to folks who comment on my blog posts.

Be sure to check out our gentle music for loving Valentine’s Day Sale now.  Music sure does create a mood for romance!

We Are What We Think

Buddha gardenI am not a Buddhist but the words here are so inspiring and relevant for modern times and our busy lives and busy minds.  See if you can get through this long poem and let me know if it resonates with you…

Choices From the Dhammapade translated by Thomas Byron

We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.
Speak or act with an impure mind
And trouble will follow you
As the wheel follows the ox that draws the cart.
We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.
Speak or act with a pure mind
And happiness will follow you
As your shadow, unshakable.
“Look how he abused me and hurt me,
How he threw me down and robbed me.”
Live with such thoughts and you live in hate.
“Look how he abused me and hurt me,
How he threw me down and robbed me.”
Abandon such thoughts, and live in love.
In this world, hate never yet dispelled hate.
Only love dispels hate.
This is the law, ancient and inexhaustible.
You too shall pass away.
Knowing this, how can you quarrel?
How easily the wind overturns a frail tree.
Seek happiness in the senses,
Indulge in food and sleep,
And you too will be uprooted.
The wind cannot overturn a mountain.
Temptation cannot touch the man
Who is awake, strong and humble,
Who masters himself and minds the dharma.
If a man’s thoughts are muddy,
If he is reckless and full of deceit,
How can he wear the yellow robe?
Whoever is master of his own nature,
Bright, clear and true,
He may indeed wear the yellow robe.
Mistaking the false for the true,
And the true for the false,
You overlook the heart
And fill yourself with desire.
See the false as false,
The true as true.
Look into your heart.
Follow your nature.
An unreflecting mind is a poor roof.
Passion, like the rain, floods the house.
But if the roof is strong, there is shelter.
Whoever follows impure thoughts
Suffers in this world and the next.
In both worlds he suffers
And how greatly
When he sees the wrong he has done.
But whoever follows the dharma
Is joyful here and joyful there.
In both worlds he rejoices
And how greatly
When he sees the good he has done.
For great is the harvest in this world,
And greater still in the next.
However many holy words you read,
However many you speak,
What good will they do you
If you do not act upon them?
Are you a shepherd
Who counts another man’s sheep,
Never sharing the way?
Read as few words as you like,
And speak fewer.
But act upon the dharma.
Give up the old ways –
Passion, enmity, folly.
Know the truth and find peace.
Share the way.

The Dhammapada, an anthology of 423 verses, has long been recognized as one of the masterpieces of early Buddhist literature. Buddhist tradition has it that shortly after the passing away of the Buddha his disciples met in council for the purpose of recalling to mind the truths they had received from their beloved Teacher during the forty-five years of his ministry. Their hope was to implant the principles of his message so firmly in memory that they would become a lasting impetus to moral and spiritual conduct, for themselves, their disciples, and for all future disciples who would seek to follow in the footsteps of the Awakened One.

Chakras Explained in Children’s Cartoon

I love the chakras and use the psychology of the chakras frequently to help people understand the issues that they are dealing with at different levels in their lives.  This children’s cartoon is actually quite close to making sense of the chakras and how we can clear blockages and open up the flow of the life force to gain greater health in the physical, mental and spiritual realms of our existence.  I have recently completed a course with Anodea Judith, one of the leading masters teaching about the chakras.  Her focus in this class was how to manifest our dreams through the chakras and in future posts, I look forward to sharing more of the skills and tools she taught us in the course.  So, enjoy this little cartoon and stay tuned for more illumination about the chakras.

ChakraMeditations&TonesIf you are interested in exploring more about the chakras, check out my album CHAKRA MEDITATIONS & TONES which has meditations and tones for each of the chakras.

 

A Sabbath of Days

Sunrise oceanA Sabbath of days, peaceful feeling, simply being.  That’s what today has been at last.  Early morning pictures of the ocean, sitting watching the waves, meditating on the morning.  What is my heart’s desire?  It came to me this morning as I was quieting my mind that I really want to help people.  I want to provide others and myself with information that will help us all to heal, prepare, and prosper.  So maybe I am a teacher or a writer or a healer.  It is clear at least that whatever it is that I create or support the creation of is intended to be of benefit to others.  The music, the writing, the ideas, the events, the media, the words of encouragement, information.  All is meant to contribute to the healing of our world.

I wrote the paragraph above in Florida on November 6, 2005 almost ten years ago and I realize I could have written it today.  I love it when we can read a journal entry from years past and find that the words still ring true.  Over four decades ago when I was living in New York City and going through a personal spiritual struggle, I made a lot of entries in my journal wishing for what I could become, how I could change and discover who I really am and what I am here for.  Much transpired after that period of soul searching when I came across that journal and read my words of youthful yearning.  I had met my soul mate Dean Evenson.  He moved in across the hall from me!  We had married and I had given birth to our first child.  We had moved to the country.  We had discovered part of our purpose in creating meaningful videotapes.  And so on….  In reading my earlier words I realized I had become what I was wanting to be.  My dreams had been realized.  What a wonderful discovery to find out that our dreams really can become realities.

What is your heart’s desire?  What do you feel called upon to contribute in this lifetime to the world around you?  I hope you are keeping a journal and jotting down your thoughts.  Someday you may read your own words and find out your dreams have come true too.  Feel free to share your thoughts here.

What really makes a person happy?

I couldn’t resist sharing this wonderful video from Jack LaLanne who was an early forerunner of the fitness movement.  Jack enthusiastically taught people how to be healthy through nutrition, exercise and good attitude. Hey doesn’t that sound familiar?  It’s what we’ve been talking about for years.  This video encapsulates his tone and spirit and is a good one to watch over and over whenever you are feeling down in the dumps.  All the money in the world can’t seem to buy happiness so perhaps we need to take a clue from people who have less in the form of material wealth but seem to have it going in the spiritual wealth department. Thank you Jack LaLanne for being such an inspiration!  May we continue the quest you began for true health and happiness and share what we have been learning.

Let me know how you find happiness even when times are tough.

Welcome to Healthy Living Dreams

Welcome to Healthy Living Dreams! The official blog of Dudley Evenson, co-founder of Soundings of the Planet. Featuring helpful hints, inspiring stories and guidance on how to live a healthy life in harmony with others & the planet